Empowering Thoughts for Mums and Children - Liz Alexander, Founder of The Mummy Editorial
/Empowering Thoughts for Mums and Children
Hello? Are you lost? I am asking because so many of us are.
Unfortunately, loss of identity and low self-confidence is quite common in Motherhood. Just to sat firstly, you are not alone. Replacing your name, you have had all your life for ‘mummy’ can be a hard one to come to terms with. I am not implying that you do not want to be ‘mummy’ however, what happened to YOU and have your forgotten to love yourself too?
In my experience, returning to things that you love can take some time. I say, enough of the pressure to ‘snap back’. This is not reality. Take your time. Remember, mum must be okay too! But when you get back to that place, are you critical of yourself? Your postpartum body?
Yes, you may be starting to feel like yourself again but are you happy with yourself. Many things change after we have a baby. Our mind, our focus our bodies – the list goes on.
Self-love sometimes can get squashed and realising that you are important is forgotten. I have been on a self-love journey and I can say now I am in a good place. It is empowering. It is fair to say that a lot of us lost that sense of connection with head and body a long time ago, somewhere in our growing up years. It is of course different for everyone, but it makes me sad. To think I have had 30 years not loving myself.
For you
If you need to start finding love for yourself, I suggest choosing one part if your body, compliment it, look at it and really notice it. Try and do this everyday for a month, its only you and a mirror. No one else must know that you are on a new journey. Just go for it!
On another note, have you thought about your children? None of us want any child to feel insecure, helpless, worthless, or even sad when they look at themselves. I think society is changing from when I was younger, now being truer and more open, but we still have more to accomplish. Social media plays a huge part now and even though there are some amazing highlights from it, comparing your life to others can be a negative. We only see snippets of people’s day or hear half of a story, but this is what our children are growing up in, this is the future. So how do we keep our children happy and confident?
For our children
I have started a short routine with my girls. I ask them to repeat some positive, inspiring sentences for example ‘I am strong’, ‘I am brave’ or ‘I can do anything’. Instilling it in them from a young age, that they can accomplish anything regardless of appearance or gender. Teaching them that it is not about their body, its about them as beings. That their opinion matters and not to settle for anything less. One other thing I do is ask them to say is ‘I love you’ to themselves in the mirror as they pass it. Teaching them its not just about loving their family but themselves too. This can teach them self-worth, strength, and a whole spectrum of confidence.
Do not be hard on yourself. Let your love grow and if you give it space to grow it will consume you. Try and remember that you are amazing. Even if you are struggling to relate to your new body. That is OK, its completely normal to feel that way, take your time. You totally got this.
Bio:
Hello my name is Liz Alexander, also known as The Mummy Editorial. I am a mum of two girls living in Buckinghamshire. I started my blog based on Birth Trauma / Positive Birth, but it has grown a lot since then and I talk more now about helping women feel empowered. Something I am deeply passionate about.
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